How to Deal with Stalkers on the Web

We've all had some experience with stalking at some point in our lives. We've all been stalked, did the stalking ourselves, or both.  Maybe you've looked up your ex on facebook, myspace, or twitter?  What's the big deal?  It's harmless right?  The problem is that stalking is the result of a combination of insecurity and the fear.  The fear of losing control... of ourselves, the situation, our relationships, and others.

I currently have a few stalkers that frequent my websites and blogs. Mostly exes and friends of exes that think I don't know how often they stalk my websites. They evidently don't know what an IP address is, and how it follows you around everywhere you go on the internet, telling every web server you visit who you are...

One of my exes even went so far as to create a fake email, sign up for my eLove Lesson newsletter, and email me fake questions! Yet another ex-girlfriend stalker thinks that she's going to sabotage everything I have going by posting a comment about my past relationships.

One stalker in particular, thinks that if she posts on my blogs that I've been divorced twice and been engaged one time that didn't work out, that it will send all of my readers running. She also thinks that not being married and having a child is some kind of liability for me. Of course she would see it that way... However, to even fathom that these two amazing souls that bless my life are any kind of liability is completely obtuse. When it comes to marriage, I'll get married when I'm damn well good and ready. I don't answer to anyone but me. The same goes for all of you. Don't let anyone pressure you to get married. Get married when YOU want to get married. But I digress, I'm not ashamed of my past. It's BECAUSE of my past that I know what I know and have learned the life lessons that I have. I wouldn't trade that for anything. I'm glad that I know what I know now... Otherwise I wouldn't be able to be here, doing this.

The most interesting part of all this, and it goes for all stalkers, is that because she's stalked me over the past five years since we split, she thinks that she still knows me. For years she's stalked me to find out what's been going on in my life and because we were together for barely 7 months more than five years ago, she thinks that she knows me. This is the most disturbing part. Stalkers lie to themselves and think that they know the people they stalk.

What makes this situation even more sad, is that she has a husband and baby on the way and yet she still finds it necessary to stalk my blog. As a whole, would you think it was okay for your wife or husband to be stalking your ex? Most people would have a problem with this because it indicates that they have issues with this person that they haven't yet resolved. If you have issues with an ex, that means you're not ready to move on with someone else. If you're with someone like this, that's a huge red flag.

Stalkers have psychological issues with fear and insecurity that need to be dealt with. These emotions end up ruling their lives and most of the time they don't even realize it. If you are one of these people that can't get over your ex and feel the need to stalk them, get help for yourself. You can get help. You can get over it and move on with your life. Don't let feelings of insecurity, anger, or jealousy rule your life. Start off with a clean slate and learn to love and respect yourself.

Confident, self-respecting, self-loving people don't stalk their exes. Period. Get yourself handled so that you can live a long, happy, baggage-free life.

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